#42 Fred Eblin – Upgraded from Daddy 1.0 to GuyTai 2.0
For the past seven years, Fred has been a stay at home father of two boys, Zaidan who is 7 and Brexton who is 4. Prior to being a stay at home father he worked as a paralegal. Originally from Southern California, he and his family have been in China for just six months and so the challenges of expatriation are still pretty fresh for them all. In this episode, Fred shares his experiences thus far – some of the challenges and the victories that he’s walking through right now.
You need to have an open mind about everything you see throughout China. It’s a different way of life.
How he got to China
It was quick! Fred’s wife, Kylee, works for SC Johnson, which is a consumer products company based in Racine Wisconsin. As she climbed within the company they knew that one day they’d have to do an overseas assignment, but never did they guess it would be as soon as it was. Kylee came home one day and said that she needed to talk to Fred about something that happened at work. She said that she was offered another job, but the catch was that it was in China… And she had just until the following morning to decide. Tune in to find out how and why they were able to make such a quick decision.
What’s tough to adjust to
Taxi drivers peeing on the side of the road, Fred laughs. (And for Fred, having to teach his boys NOT to follow suit.)
In just six months, Fred doesn’t claim too many victories quite yet; but if he has to choose, each day that he doesn’t have to wear a mask to guard from pollution is a victory.
Staying motivated through challenges
Fred reminds himself of all the amazing things he gets to see and what an opportunity that they have as a family to life abroad. It’s encouraging to remember that not only do they get to see amazing places and live a life that they did not have back in the States. But the kids are also getting an amazing education and both have met so many new friends. These things help even on the worst of days, knowing his kids are happy.
Balancing work and life
Kylee travels a lot and so Fred is really, really intentional about making sure she stays connected to the day-to-day life at home – facetime, photos, text messages, Skype – they do what they need to do so that Kylee doesn’t feel like a stranger when she is home. Fred manages everything at the house, as well, to take every burden off of Kylee’s shoulders that he can. Of course, a great ayi and reliable driver help a great deal as well.
Fred’s younger son goes to Little Scholar Academy and his older goes to Concordia International School Shanghai. He talks about how each school seems to be a great fit for each of his sons and he has the opportunity to be super involved at both schools (and actually teaches PE and cooking at Little Scholar!) He talks about how everyone should get involved with the parent organizations at their kids’ schools to meet others in the same. Tune in to hear why they picked those particular schools.
Connecting with Fred
Wechat: FredEblin Facebook: FredEblin Email: FredEblin@gmail.com